My wife is heavy into the low carb-keto thing, but she loves half & half in her coffee, but lost of calories. She switched over to a tiny bit of butter and whilst not the same, she says she can live with it
1 pat of butter (1"x1"x1/3") averages 36 calories.
2 tsbp of half & half averages 40 calories.
1 tsbp of heavy cream is 50 calories.
I'd stick with what she likes, I can cut 4-14 calories per cup elsewhere. If you like butter in your coffee use it, but if you don't cut the calories elsewhere.