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Hell theres 60 reloading presses in rhe garage. And he wants to keep all of those LMFAO
The museum nobody would visit.
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I'd say, accept the gifts with the understanding he can use any at any time he likes? Ha!, I'm 76, and still buying.
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I'm going through a similar thing with my Dad. My Mom passed a year and a half ago and he's living alone for the first time in his life - it's tough watching him try to adjust. He's obviously thinking quite a bit about the end and is asking my siblings and I similar questions about what we want. He's giving us some of it now and hanging on to other things for the time being. He gave me all of his archery stuff a couple years ago and is hanging on to his guns for now.
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I went through a version of that. My dad had Alzheimer's, and was way past shooting or loading. My step-mother called my brothers and I and said it was time to clean out the gun room. My dad was standing there as we sorted through and packed up all his shooting and reloading stuff. He was really stressed, and we kept having to distract and re-direct him away from the room. It was a hard day A traumatic day for all of us. Decades of memories in that room. Some of my earliest memories. I still use his stuff with reverence. I still thank him each time I use something that was his. I still tear up just typing this.
I hope you can find a way to make it an honorable exchange for both you and your dad. I feel for you. Heart warming story. I will be offering my kids my "stuff" from the "room" in the not too distant future so this also brought a tear to my eyes. God bless.
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After the game is over, the king and the pawn go into the same box. Italian Proverb
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#1, I would have reacted just like you. And have, with Mom.
#2, Dad wants you to have them. And like you said, "They are his to do with as he wants. " So, accept what he wants.
#3 Dad may well be aware of the med expense issue. Maybe he feels that if you have them now, they are yours. And not susceptible to seizure for his debt.
Have another conversation.
"Dad, I bought a safe. It's in the basement, just for the guns you are giving me. I will gladly accept them, and store them there. If at anytime you want or need one of them, we know where they are, And I still consider them yours. On one of the worst days of my life, They will become mine." (You might not be able to look at each other)
The circumstances are a bit different, but I have Dads whole collection. He and I are the only ones that have that combination. (Mine is locked in my safe I never, ever, get in his safe. Unless he asks me to drop off a certain gun if I'm coming by) He feels that I have them. I consider them his. And always will! Heck, a couple were his dad's!
Parents who say they have good kids..Usually don't!
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You don't own guns, you're just their caretaker for a while.
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I'd do it differently. Take them out one at a time for a shoot together. Make a little routine out of it, have him tell the story of this one or that one.
I'll be giving rifles away before I croak because I want them to have good homes, and it's also a nice way to be remembered. Or maybe I'll just sell them for a favorable price.
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Be thankful you have such a good father, take the guns now while the getting is good for both of you, he will be happy you have them. I am now 80 years old, my son passed away a while back so I have absolutely nobody to leave them to. Have been selling them off to folks who want them bad enough to pay a fair price, proceeds probably to the local gun club.
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I told him he's got 5 to 10 more yrs in him and they're his, do as he wishes with em. He is doing what nhe wishes with them and he wants to SEE you enjoy them before he goes.
Paul
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