Will add, today it's socially acceptable to have a partner and not a spouse. And it's also OK with most, if the partner is same sex, and or thinks they are an animal or alien.
A big part of the problem is, a lot of young people today don't see any path to making enough money to set up housekeeping and raising kids.
Another is, young men are shying away from marriage because in the event of a divorce, the man will be financially ruined for all of eternity.
Basically, young people see the marriage "thing" as something that's not available to them. It's something the previous generations participated in.
All that's true. Another issue is that young people who spent their teens and twenties "hooking up" with everything that walks are damaged to the point that they're incapable of forming a committed relationship. The saying that "you can't turn a ho into a housewife" is true, if they view sex as something as mundane as shopping for groceries then they're likely to cheat on you the first times they get pissed off at you, and as any married man knows they're pissed off at you half the time. The likelihood of being cheated on if you marry one of these hookup culture partners is extremely high, then you've got to decide if you'll put up with it and stay married or divorce them and lose most of your money and property.
A big part of the problem is, a lot of young people today don't see any path to making enough money to set up housekeeping and raising kids.
Another is, young men are shying away from marriage because in the event of a divorce, the man will be financially ruined for all of eternity.
Basically, young people see the marriage "thing" as something that's not available to them. It's something the previous generations participated in.
All that's true. Another issue is that young people who spent their teens and twenties "hooking up" with everything that walks are damaged to the point that they're incapable of forming a committed relationship. The saying that "you can't turn a ho into a housewife" is true, if they view sex as something as mundane as shopping for groceries then they're likely to cheat on you the first times they get pissed off at you, and as any married man knows they're pissed off at you half the time. The likelihood of being cheated on if you marry one of these hookup culture partners is extremely high, then you've got to decide if you'll put up with it and stay married or divorce them and lose most of your money and property.
And that's why so many men are choosing not to marry those women. The risks outweigh the rewards.
You didn't use logic or reason to get into this opinion, I cannot use logic or reason to get you out of it.
You cannot over estimate the unimportance of nearly everything. John Maxwell
A big part of the problem is, a lot of young people today don't see any path to making enough money to set up housekeeping and raising kids.
Another is, young men are shying away from marriage because in the event of a divorce, the man will be financially ruined for all of eternity.
Basically, young people see the marriage "thing" as something that's not available to them. It's something the previous generations participated in.
All that's true. Another issue is that young people who spent their teens and twenties "hooking up" with everything that walks are damaged to the point that they're incapable of forming a committed relationship. The saying that "you can't turn a ho into a housewife" is true, if they view sex as something as mundane as shopping for groceries then they're likely to cheat on you the first times they get pissed off at you, and as any married man knows they're pissed off at you half the time. The likelihood of being cheated on if you marry one of these hookup culture partners is extremely high, then you've got to decide if you'll put up with it and stay married or divorce them and lose most of your money and property.
And that's why so many men are choosing not to marry those women. The risks outweigh the rewards.
True. The move to cohabitation without documents of union was led by men for the reason you just stated.
Next time instead of marriage I’m just gonna go find a women that I despise and buy her a house, once said another poster here.
The degree of my privacy is no business of yours.
What we've learned from history is that we haven't learned from it.
The saying that "you can't turn a ho into a housewife" is true, if they view sex as something as mundane as shopping for groceries then they're likely to cheat on you the first times they get pissed off at you, and as any married man knows they're pissed off at you half the time. The likelihood of being cheated on if you marry one of these hookup culture partners is extremely high, then you've got to decide if you'll put up with it and stay married or divorce them and lose most of your money and property.
Originally Posted by antelope_sniper
And that's why so many men are choosing not to marry those women. The risks outweigh the rewards.
Y'all think that concept is limited to women? LOL
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The move to cohabitation without documents of union was led by men for the reason you just stated.
I am not convinced that this is true. I also think that there are some additional reasons for this. With the elimination of any legal distinction in the status of children as either “legitimate” or “illegitimate,” and the rise of no-fault divorce, what really is the point besides religious beliefs and certain legal rights afforded those with married status, such as inheritance, tax benefits and medical decisions? A true commitment can be backed up by paper or not, and paper does not prove commitment in any event.
"Don't believe everything you see on the Internet" - Abraham Lincoln
The move to cohabitation without documents of union was led by men for the reason you just stated.
I am not convinced that this is true. I also think that there are some additional reasons for this. With the elimination of any legal distinction in the status of children as either “legitimate” or “illegitimate,” and the rise of no-fault divorce, what really is the point besides religious beliefs and certain legal rights afforded those with married status, such as inheritance, tax benefits and medical decisions? A true commitment can be backed up by paper or not, and paper does not prove commitment in any event.
The current trend in the Men's Movement is well past cohabitation without documentation. The direction now is toward no cohabitation, and no long term relationships. The primary drivers behind this is women filing 80% of the divorces, and the financial ruin visited upon men in the process.
You didn't use logic or reason to get into this opinion, I cannot use logic or reason to get you out of it.
You cannot over estimate the unimportance of nearly everything. John Maxwell