Home Forums Hunting & Shooting Hunter's Campfire Get married or shack up?

Both can be stressful and costly, I prefer the stability of marriage 35yrs. and counting.

I got bad news for you, one of you is going to die alone. Unless the pair of you decide to Thelma & Louise it.

If screws in the ass if things go south. Again WHY does someone NEED a license from the government to get married?

I bet momma hasn't been happy for a long time

Married 40 going on 41 years so I guess I will say married

You're another that has zero concept of today's world. Here's one hint, kids don't play kick the can anymore.

Depends on her asset and income level.

Menopause can be tough on women, some lose their way in life.

Which is better?

When I answered the first time, I was thinking of my current situation. Mileage and results may very for others.

My kids are grown. She still has one at home. Marriage boils down to contract, per my divorce lawyer. I ain’t taking on any financial liabilities for a feral teenager.

At work, they pay a full single policy, so that’s another financial positive for us.

So if your done having kids, I would not get married.

The area of the country I live in. White trash shack up long term. Decent people marry. That is the perception here. Maybe we are backwards here.

It's not so much the Menopause, it the midlife crisis. About half of divorces occur during a midlife crisis.

Shack up then get married

The tax laws are telling you to shack up long term if both of you are bringing lots of real estate into the picture. First off they tax married folks higher here than they do single people which is called the marriage penalty. Then if one of you sells a property that isn't their primary residence, capital gains are all on the person that owns it. Marry that person and that capital gains income becomes both of your tax implication.

I believe Adultery is defined as those who are in Holy Matrimony that go outside of their vows and have sex with other married or unmarried people.

Shacking up most likely falls under fornication which may or may not be a lesser type of sin.

Opinions vary widely, no doubt.

At any rate, it’s hard to pass on a chance to try and knock the bottom out of it when the occasion presents itself.

The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak so to speak.

Then shack up again after the divorce is finalized.

a piece of paper or a ring doesn't make a marriage.

I feel confident my wife and I would be together now whether it was official or not. We've never been at the level of discourse that we talked about going our separate ways

If there is no transcendental, supernatural God, then "marriage" is meaningless superstition and there is no rational source for any kind of objective morality. Did the concept of marriage "evolve" from adaptations to that happened to reduce more frequent homicide in cultures where monogamy was ambiguous? Clearly, it was adopted as a control mechanism for authoritarian powers to sanction certain unions while prohibiting others and taxing them all, but that came well after the institution of marriage. So if it was first adopted as a survival mechanism, can a person or society come to terms with its status as an arcane ritual and just dispense with it? Why not as individuals dispense with all morality if we know it only ever came about as a cultural adaptation for survival? Why do we have to be the ones that behave according to the arcane moralities, and how do we know we're not ones that can forsake morality and do whatever seems to be in our own interest?

We can all justify what we do.

I find nothing arcane in leading a moral life. Most all of the world’s problems, past and present, stem from the misuse of free will.

Jmo

A lot of em’ go crazy at 40 for the reason that AS mentioned above; and as he’s mentioned before, 80% of divorces are initiated by them, and they have a financial incentive for doing so.

That said, “violating marriage vows” is often interpreted by many as infidelity/adultery. And infidelity/adultery is NOT the only way that marriage vows can be violated.

Neither,at this point in my life,looking back........I wouldn't bother with a full time ,live in chick.
Nor would i ever get married,i would just have good times for a while and move on,nothing serious,nothing big or heavy or emotional,just have fun with them,and thats that.I'd be upfront with them,i wouldn' t string anyone along or B.S. them,i'd be truthfull from the start,if they were cool with that,fine,if not ? See Ya ! An old Dockbuilder i worked with years ago told me,"THE F ING YOU GET AIN'T WORTH THE F ING YOU TAKE!" Sound advice Bobby,wish i would've listened.