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This has become pointless.
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PM would be best. Talk with friends and the church. If she wants a divorce don't lose on the internet because it will show up in court.
My prayers are with you.
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Fireball2;
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as well.
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Fireball2,
This is something that breaks my heart. I already prayed for you guys before I posted this.
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You dont want to hear what most are thinking.
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I'll be praying that the Lord give you guidance and direction. I guess the first thing I would ask you after reading your post, if I were counseling you is. Do you want to stay married?
You say your wife is a Christian but it doesn't seem like she has a current living relationship with Jesus. I'm not saying that she doesn't love the Lord. What i'm saying is that if she could see that Jesus is alive and with her right now, she couldn't remain hopeless and discouraged.
You really need to know that this likely didn't just happen recently. Women slowly divorce themselves from a marriage for a long time before the actual walking out. It's very likely that her depression and hopelessness is simply a symptom of her disassociation with you are your marriage over time. If you want to save this marriage you have to find out the root causes for her dissatisfaction, and it's not as simple as, it's just all your fault.
No person can make another person happy. People have to share happiness through common goals and experiences. You can't make her happy but maybe you can help her to find out what she can do to be happy. Basically your marriage will depend on you both wanting to save it. If she has no interest in saving the marriage you are wasting your time.
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People change their minds all the time, it doesn't matter what religion they claim to believe in or what church they go to.
If she is blaming you for the way she feels and wants to leave, what are you going to be able to do about it?
She must have some payoff in mind...get a lawyer.
It ain't all burritos and strippers my friends...
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My neighbors are getting a divorce. A couple of months ago I was working in the yard and heard raised voices, the next day the husband was gone. He took one of the daughters and two dogs and he hasn't been back...that's just how it goes sometimes.
It ain't all burritos and strippers my friends...
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I'll second RHC, you can't force her to be happy. If she is really doing it, get a lawyer and get prepared. Take the high road and be the better person.
It's all you got left when their minds are closed.
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Differences set aside I feel for you. I'm having similar issues at the moment. And yes I'll say a prayer for your marriage.
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Yes, best that you not to say much more, as not knowing the woman, things could get legally dicey, if she found out you were discussing this online.
Stepkids then were taken on in this marriage, which is a huge responsibility you willingly took upon yourself. Very honorable.
Some people can't let go of the past, and if they have a dependent kind of nature, they are unable to be responsible for their own happiness, as mature adults should and are able to do. If this is the situation, this "crisis" was a long time coming.
You have my prayers.
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Rosco,
Whether you agree w his posts or not, he is hurting and reached out...
So leave the negativity in Utah.
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While trying to compose a message of hope I had to go through memories. What you are going through I have gone through. some of the immediate future will be what you never wanted but must deal with. You are strong so you will survive though the struggle will be unpleasant. Hang in there. Life is precious. Happiness is rare so treasure the good memories and concentrate on building new ones. Do not let her blame you for her own issues. Make her play fair.
Good luck.
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No advice, just prayers for wisdom and mercy.
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...I am proud and recognize that I am part of the problem, but correcting my half won't save this marriage by itself... But it's a good start.
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