I'll slingshot the slide when in the process of chambering a round from a magazine.

But when I release the slide on an empty chamber and magazine -
I'll grasp the top of the slide slowing its freefall as it slams home.

As to using the slide release lever on many of my pistols ...
I don't, as some seem to require excessive force to activate.

Maybe they just need breaking in - but I don't want to break something off!

- Moose