Just go pick up any hunting type mid weight soft point, hollow point or whatever non FMJ ammo and call it good.
I would concentrate a lot more money, effort and thought into taking care of loved ones who may likely get injured. Learn some casualty care and how to stabilize a trauma victim.
Bad things happen to good people, learn to deal with it.
It is very easy to dump dudes, it is a lot harder keeping people alive.
