I spoke to a man in my club who's wife died. He had her direct cremated. Her ashes returned in a bag inside a box.
He bought a cremation urn from Walmart, stainless steel. He put her ashes in and used roofing sealant to seal it shut. He dug a hole and poured some concrete in the bottom. He made a wood box from plywood. Inside that box he put in a concrete form tube. He poured concrete between the walls. Then he poured a concrete cap to cover. He draped plastic over the box and set the cap on top. He buried it. Then he bought a small marble marker with her name on it. All this he did in her flower bed next to the house.
He said if he ever moves he will take the marker and urn with him, and do it again wherever he goes. His son's know where it is and should he not leave and die himself they will mix his ashes with hers and dispose of them however they wish. He is currently about 60 years old, his wife died of cancer.
He said he didn't want the urn in his house, didn't want to look at it every day. I can see that.
Is this a bit strange? I can see it, I have no issue with it, but others might see it as strange.
Seems reasonable to me.
Built her a nice solid shelter with his own hands is a place she enjoyed.
Didn't break the bank.
Wanted to keep her close, but not too close.
And even if I didn't consider his actions reasonable, so long as he's not creating a public health hazard, I would see no reason to substitute my judgement for his.
