It's a horse a piece though I lean toward the Remington as I am extremely familiar with them, any possible breakage is easily repaired, and there are plenty of options available for them. The Affinity is a nice gun from a reputable manufacturer and would be a good choice too.
I have not heard of a Franchi having any more recoil than any other similar firearm. Recoil is a matter of gun weight, shot charge weight, and velocity. Gun manufacturer has no part in the equation. Stock dimensions determine gun fit and how the recoil is transmitted to the shooter and this is peculiar to the individual and again has nothing to do with the manufacturer.
Operational mechanism affects recoil too. An intertis gun is going to kick harder than a gas gun
