Years ago, before the internet, I wrote Hodgden notes asking for advice. I have at least 3 of them that Bruce answered, on my original note, and sent back. No substitute for personal contact, so a phone call seems like great advice.
Imagine your grave on a windy winter night. You've been dead for 70 years. It's been 50 since a visitor last paused at your tombstone..... Now explain why you're in a pissy mood today.