The way hospice works around here, they won’t even put people in hospice unless the doctors have a reasonable belief that the person will pass within 6 months, and they only do palliative care. If you go to the hospital to prolong life, they will kick you out. If it turns out that your mother had a curable medical condition from which she recovered, it may have turned out that she should not have been in hospice even if the doctors objectively thought that she met the criteria at the time.
With that said, starving someone to death by not inserting a feeding tube sounds very harsh and inhumane. Nutrition is a basic need whether a person is sick or perfectly healthy. Providing food is different than artificially breathing for someone or pumping their blood or fighting an infection with medication. I don’t really know much about medical ethics, but I see a distinction.
You are in a tough situation, and I hope that you can come to a wise decision and be at peace with it.
