Ruger#1,
You don't need a 44 Special, just load your 44 mag appropriately. I have a similar story. I rode bucking horses for my college (bareback) and have broken my wrist numerous times.
I dont shoot the heavy loads any more than I have to. Use 8.5 grains Unique with a 240 cast SWC for lighter target/plinking loads and 10 grains Unique with the same bullet for hunting stuff.
They are easy to shoot loads and don't leave my wrist throbbing. I still shoot the heavy 300 and 320 cast loads, but usually only enough to tune up for elk/big game season. The rest of the time, I leave them alone.
The .44 mag is so easy to load for, just find your comfort level and go for it.
