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So sorry for your loss.
No words seem enough at times like this.
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I just saw this post and read it to my wife. We are both heartbroken.
We are praying tonight for you and your family.
God bless,
--Duck911
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You despair, repeatedly, constantly! daily basis? A despair ninny. Sack up, despire ninny.
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You and your family have my deepest sympathy and prayers.
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Peace, Strength and the Grace of God be with you and yours in this time of sorrow. I would encourage you and the family to consider attending some sort of 'Grief group' through a church or other civic organization. Not necessarily right away and probably not even all you going at the same time but consider it.
I attended one at my church after my wife passed away from natural causes. It was very helpful to me just to know that I wasn't the only one out there whose emotions were like a giant bowl of spaghetti and that what I was feeling was not unusual. I even eventually helped to lead later groups.
At one of our groups, there was a mother and daughter. They had lost a daughter/sister to a drug OD. Their responses to the loss of the same person were quite different. Even though it was the same person they lost, the relationship was different. Please keep that in mind as you and the rest of your family move forward with your own lives.
Feel free to contact me if you want,
Dale
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May our God comfort you and your family. My wife and I pray for your entire family and truly believe your son’s soul is is with our God and will await a grand reunion one day! Until that day I pray you and your family find great love and support from one another. God bless you sir.
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My heart breaks for you and your family. May God ease this over time. God be with you all
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This is difficult so bear with me. I have always thoroughly enjoyed this forum. We all come from many walks of life but have appreciated input from others even when maybe we didn't agree. I read much more than I post as some of the responses on here can be scathing. The outdoors has always been a way of life for me to cope with whatever had me on the fence. I introduced the kids to the outdoors and they loved to hunt with me as well as ride 4-wheelers, fish, hike, camp, etc.
My 15-year old son was the core of my happiness as well as my daughter who is younger than him. I've always done things for the family as opposed to chasing a career and putting family aside. We had purchased a farm a couple years ago so that my wife and I could enjoy the outdoors with the kids and have a place just to get away from city life and a corporate job. However, my son had been battling depression for the past year. We did everything a parent knew to do at the time. When COVID came about, we took off to the farm and I worked remotely there as the offices were closed and we were just trying to stay safe. This was both a blessing and a curse for us as we'd later find out.
Fast forward to late May as this was when my world turned upside down. My son had been telling me he was sad but couldn't articulate why. This was a theme that was coming up every few months. I had a pep talk with him that evening telling him how much I loved him and how we'll get through the tough times. Little did I know how deep the message was that he was telling me. He was also telling me that kids were messing with him on social media. I didn't understand at the time to what degree as he minimized issues bothering him and wouldn't open up to his mother and I. Later that evening, my 15 year old son took his own life in front of me in the yard of the farm while I begged him not to do that.
I cannot begin to tell you the stages of grief I have and am going through. The images of that night and the OODA loop have cycled in my mind a billion+ times. I'm so lost and empty without my main man as I called him. Everything I've done was based around having a boy and a girl as a child. He has taken all enjoyment from me including hunting and shooting as well as the labor of love of the farm. My daughter won't open up and was there that night but was on the back side of the house when it occurred. She saw her brother laying there by the driveway when the in-laws came up and ushered her out of there. No words can express the heartache and emptiness I feel. It's hard for me to think that I will have to endure this the rest of my life. So many could of, should of, would of going through my head. Counselors have expressed not to feel guilt....I understand it was his decision but my job as a Dad was to protect him and I failed.
I bring all of this up as it seems like daily, I'm reading about suicides in the news...My son was absolutely cyber-bullied by two individuals (minors) for months. One kid told him the Friday before exactly what my son should do to end his life and my son followed it to a tee.....The kid continued on berating him online even after his death. He knew he was dead based on what other kids in the community posted online. Have we risen this low in society that this is the new normal?
For those of you that have lost loves one to suicide, I feel your pain and know what you're going through. It's hard to understand unless you've been here which I didn't in the past. For those with loved ones battling depression, take what they say seriously and understand what you think/feel is at a healthy rational level and they are not at the same place as you. I didn't understand that until it was too late. I thought telling him I was there and loved him would help him through it. I was ignorant. I've read the Good Guys suicide thread and there are some uninformed posts there. It's such a complicated topic and we as humans DO NOT understand the human mind. I'll forever miss the great times with my bud and will miss so much being a father of a son.....I'm so lost.
Thanks for reading and prayers are appreciated. devnull, Very sorry about your son. Travis
Trump being classless,tasteless and clueless as usual. Sorry, trump is a no tax payin pile of shiit. My young wife decided to play the field and had moved several dudes into my house
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These situations are often very complex and some things just can’t be explained. I am so so sorry that you and your family are experiencing this devastating loss. As a good Dad, you will certainly fulfill your role within the family unit. You all need each other right now! Our family will be praying for yours tonight. The good Lord will bless you and your family once again, as he has in the past.
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My heart goes out to you and your family.
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I'm so sorry to hear of your family's tragic loss. I'll pray that God provides comfort for you and your family and peace everlasting for your son.
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devnull With tears I read your post. How deeply I feel for you and your family. 1974 our 6yr old daughter was killed crossing the road in front of our home. We know that deep horrible grief of loosing a child. Your situation is far different, far more profound and far more difficult than ours and impossible to fully grasp. My deepest condolences. Man! I hurt for you. Began praying for you and your family as I began reading this and will continue. Jim
BE STRONG IN THE LORD, AND IN HIS MIGHTY POWER. ~ Ephesians 6:10
Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery. --Winston Churchill
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Heart goes out to you and your family.
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Any words I could write... would fail.
I will instead ask God to hold you and your family well until you can walk again... however long it takes for that day to arrive.
With great sympathy, Leonard
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Talk to your son each night in your prayers. He will hear you. You can talk about all the things you will do together for eternity in Heaven. Take care of, and enjoy and love your earthly family until that day. Then, you will all be together again.
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I am very sorry for your loss. We lost our only son in an accident 15 years ago at age 20. It has and is devastating to loose a child. If it wasn't for our beliefs and help from god, I don't know if I could have made it this long. We are praying for you and your family. God bless you.
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Just write stuff out... write it out as you feel it, reread it, write some more, edit it, write and edit, keep writing to yourself.
You will never be the person you were before, you are someone else now, you need to learn who that is.
My daughter wrote...
When you lose a parent you lost the past When you lose a spouse you lost the present When you lose a child you lost the future When you lose a sibling you lost all three
Keep your daughter close.
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I do not have the words to express my feelings of pain and remorse I feel for you and your family right now. It's said that time heals all wounds and I hope that in time you will find a way to deal with your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family. May God bless you and keep you. Prayers to you and your family in your time of grief.
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Sorry for your loss Dev. God Bless your family during this time.
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I am so sorry to hear this and know from my own experiences it is incredibly painful, I hope you find the internal strength to cope with this tragic loss and keep your daughter and wife close.
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