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Hugh...Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I'm in the wildfire line of work and I've had some training in suicide and stress management. My wife is an RN in Er and ICU so we've been good shoulders for each other over the years. As dodge said many times you don't see it until its too late. Keep an eye on your sister and any changes to "normal" patterns. Sometimes people want to talk about it other times they just want someone to bring them a drink and sit beside them. If she wants to talk don't feel you have to solve the problem, just listen and if you believe it would help kindly suggest you find someone to talk with. Not necessarily at Dr but someone with experience in dealing with suicide. Dodge will tell you some of the best support is from peers, they get it as they've walked in your shoes. The same goes here in dealing with loss and suicide. I don't have a lot of experience but if I can help in any way just drop me a PM. Dodge, if you ever need to vent, scream obscenities or talk about something drop me a PM.

No words, I'll Pray.

Good luck Hugh...

Hate to hear this. A PM that was hired on in my from the same week as I was was a very capable person, till he married the second wife. She had to have the big house and fancy car...it drove him to bankruptcy and he declined to go to lunch with all us guys one day and we found him behind the office in his car when we got back.

One's mind is a swirling storm of emotions, questions and attempted answers. I guess I am lucky in that my lizard brain does not have that penchant for what looks like the easy out, I have some anger issues but so far have reached outward.

I have a granddaughter that struggles with depression and I worry about her someday just giving up that struggle.

Sorry for your sister's loss and this road you must now travel.

May he rest in peace. God Bless. The horrific thing about suicide is the terrible burden it leaves on love one’s left behind.

Sorry for your loss! Prayers for your sister to help ease her through a very difficult time!

Very sorry, prayers sent!

Depression is a disease that ruins and destroys life. It is only by happenstance and a 5 minute phone call with a psych nurse that i am around to post.

Sorry to hear this, help your sister, take care of yourself.

Lost a friend the first day of turkey season 1987. We were seniors.
Took years to get past, close to 20 until a movie scene wouldn't bring it
roaring back.
Total shock, it still is.

Happy to see that you are posting. 👍🏻

This brings up a good point.

Many people not in the mental health field believe that they have the appropriate ‘answers’ for depressed people without medically understanding depression and mental illness. I have two close friends that are doctors. Both stated to me that mental illness is one of the more difficult areas to deal with. Also, many (not all) suicides could have been prevented with the appropriate intervention beforehand. I seen this overseas when a soldier put a pistol to his heart and pulled the trigger. Turns out his buddies all seen the warning signs and nobody basically did nothing. Or they thought ‘their’ advice was enough. Wrong answer.

Bottomline, only people who are trained in this area should be giving advice. If you think you know someone is suffering from mental illness, do what you can to get them the ‘right’ help.

I am so sorry to hear this. I will be thinking of your family

As has been said, “Everyone you meet in life is engaged in an epic battle that you know nothing about, and is about to give up. Be kind.”

Prayers for healing, comforting, and strength.

Sorry to hear this, condolences for you and your family

I am very sorry for you and your sister. Suicide is very hard to come to terms with. I lost my brother to suicide. He was freakishly smart and funny as fugk. Depression and addiction haunted him.

HughW: Sorry to hear of the death and the sadness upon your sister and the family.
Tough one.
I dealt with suicides professionally for 29 years and NOTHING good comes from that act!
Stay strong your family needs you.
Hold into the wind
VarmintGuy

Very sorry for this tremendous loss to you and your family.

That’s terrible I’m very sorry to hear it.

Sounds cliche I know but I hear these stories and it reminds me I need to cut people slack and extend some grace. I never know what people are carrying.

Yep.

efw;
Morning sir, I hope you're all well in your section of Michigan.

Thanks for your post and a hearty "Amen" from me.

Years ago I read of a study up here where they said of every 100 Canadian men who suffered from depression or other mental issues, 10 would see a medical professional and 3 of those would get successful treatment.

The rest self medicate and deal with it with varying levels of success.

While I don't understand it, as others have said my attitudes towards suicide have changed significantly during the course of my life.

All the best and thanks again for your thoughts.

Dwayne

Only reason I don't kill myself is because I hate to see my enemies smile.