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I've said some really mean things to him that I didn't mean..

4. Not Every Thought and Feeling Needs to be Said. Women tend to be so verbal, so expressive, that they can tire out men easily unless they exercise some restraint. Dr. Laura reports that wives generally overwhelm their husbands with communication. "Husbands imagine (so foolishly) that their wives are telling them something they actually need to know because they're supposed to do something about it. Otherwise, men can't imagine why the 'communication' is happening at all. It confuses them, frustrates them, and their response is to turn off. That's when they unfairly become labeled insensitive." Husbands and fiances are not girlfriends or psychologists, and women who want attention should adjust their communication style accordingly when speaking with them.

5. Men Are Not Mind-Readers. Most men are not very intuitive compared to most women. Many women "get caught up in the absurdly romanticized notion that 'if he loved me, he'd just know what I'm thinking, what I'd like, what he should say.'" If a woman wants her man to do something, she should just ask him plainly, without nagging, and show appreciation when he does it. To act otherwise, as many women do, shows arrogance and lack of respect for the husband's difference, and it leads to unhappiness in the marriage and in the family.

Bullchit.....you believe in fairies....but yet find it hard to believe that a person could be hurting from relationship woes?........figgers.

If I ever do anything as pathetic as the original post somebody please come up here and kick the [bleep] out of me. If that is for real the last place she oughta be is on the internet asking for advise - I'd say a 72 hour hold in a psych ward bare minimum. Christ, quit whining - there're folks in the world with REAL problems.

proof that some thoughts are definately better left unspoken.....

What Dgal has to realize is that a man is not her girlfriend, he thinks and acts like a man. He is not going to be the one to sit and "feel" with you, to share your pain. He is the one that will try to fix the problem. If that problem is insurmountable to him, or if she resists him trying to fix it, or adds to the problem, he will feel defeated.

She States:



We men don't see that like women. We don't count that you may just be acting out of emotion, because we control our emotions. The fact is, to us, you said it so you ment it. Such a thing would not come out in an emotional moment if it wasn't lingering in there anyway.


Then there is the emotional baggage. As I said in a previous post, men like a strong woman. The fact is that if you ask someone to carry your baggage, he will get tired of the weight. Deal with your own emotions and be strong.

Men have the challenge of controlling their sexuality. In order to be good husbands and boyfriends they have to choose fidelity, even though it is not natural to them. Women's challenge is to control their emotions. To run them through a filter of logic and reason before expressing them. And no, PMS is not a gull dern excuse!! Any more than, "she was super hot and I was drunk" is an excuse.

Maybe Dgal should read this book before pursuing another relationship.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d.html?a=0060520612

I glanced through a copy once and it seems to hit men on the head.

Two things to the point, especially the first one:

You guys sound like Dr. Phil. And I'd like to kick Dr. Phil in the pelvis. (that's the bone structure that my foot would connect with if I kicked him hard enough in the nuts)

This is someon's daughter we are talking about and I'm ok with the fact that she trusted this group with her problem.

I'd also like to note that amongst those that manned up & took the chance that this might be for real... were a couple of our resident black sheep. Such as steely & bart.

These are the same kind of guys that can take an occasional beating from someone swinging a bible.

Moments of truth.

The cream always rises to the top.