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I'm surely not one of the "betters on the fire" but I had the same experience almost 12 years ago. I didn't attend. And I have regretted it....it wasn't his fault she grew up to be a bitch.
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I would pay a visit to your ex beforhand and ask her if it would be OK to attend with your boys. If she would rather you wouldn't, give her your respects and sorrow in your father-in-laws passing and wish her well.
Phil That's good. Except I would think about calling rather than a face to face. That's what I was thinking.
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If they have visitation at the funeral home a day or two before the funeral, you might be able to slip in, sign the register, say your goodbyes and drop a card in the basket. They'll know you were there and unless the ex is there at the same time you can do it on your own terms.
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just wanting to know how my 'betters' on the 'fire would handle it Betters? Ignore my post then.  Hope it works out good for you. Tough situation to be in, but I'm sure you'll play it well.
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I went for my daughters and my ex-wife with whom I remained (and still remain) friends. Her current husband got bent out of shape, but I figured that was his problem, not mine. If my ex had asked me (or had someone relay the message) not to come, I would have respected her wishes.
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I think you should go - and think you will be glad you did.
Also think the family will be glad you came.
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Go to the Funeral home before the big service and sign the guest book.
Shows you care without much effort and probably won't have to run into anyone.
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Go. You're not paying your respects to the family, you are paying them to your FIL...
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What ingwe said. My thoughts exactly.
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Flowers, and a card - visit surreptitiously, if you will. No need to disrupt the ceremonies.
Mark
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oldtrapper is also oldundertaker.
Your boys need their father's support. Go.
Your ex brotherinlaw is a friend. Go.
The deceased was a friend. Go.
I've never seen a funeral where everyone was friends with everyone. Go.
Death is a common denominator. If ya go with the right intentions and someone acts like a horse's azz, it is on them. Go.
Go, you will otherwise regret it. Your question tells me so.
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Very well said. I'd go because once I didn't and ever since I've wished I had. It's not about you and HER. Just don't sit next to HER in the family section and you'll be fine.
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Left condolence message with bil's home phone, he's been with his mom all day. Talked to sil and she'd like to see me, so maybe it wouldn't be too outta line to go. I find it ironic that the ex was outta town with the 'worlds most interesting man', and reason for our divorce. Sil beat her back to town from Helena by a full day, as she won't get back until tomorrow. That's the update, appreciate all the feedback, fellers. Unless mother dearest wishes otherwise, I'll probably go. They're setting it up for tuesday to allow time for the outta town relatives to show up.
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Go is the true answer too IMHO. Has nothign to do with the ex at all, but with the relationship you had with the FIL.
Best of luck though, I'll keep you in thoughts and prayers, my condolences and to those family members also.
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Left condolence message with bil's home phone, he's been with his mom all day. Talked to sil and she'd like to see me, so maybe it wouldn't be too outta line to go. I find it ironic that the ex was outta town with the 'worlds most interesting man', and reason for our divorce. Sil beat her back to town from Helena by a full day, as she won't get back until tomorrow. That's the update, appreciate all the feedback, fellers. Unless mother dearest wishes otherwise, I'll probably go. They're setting it up for tuesday to allow time for the outta town relatives to show up. Strength, Wisdom, and Love go with thee, Mister. ...travel safe. GTC
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I'd rather go and have it potentially be a bit uncomfortable than not go and regret it for the rest of your life.
I chose not to go to a funeral about five years ago and frequently regret it. Sucks!!
I say go.....
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I believe I would go pay my respect with my hat in my hand. Kinda hard to see how that could go wrong...Best wishes with this and sorry for your families loss...
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It seems as if drama is in your future, I would not go. You made your attempt.
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