Nice OP and thread. It may take a while - maybe longer for some than for others. When we married I knew she was very smart and highly principled, had a good heart, was loyal and was absolutely lovely and desirable.
That's good stuff for openers, but the truly great evidence appears during those early hard times, in the challenges of raising children, the career choices and growth, and some other deep issues later in life. It's been 56+ years and somehow I know, for sure, and love her more than ever.
