In t I argued that if we hadn't taken the time to go see him when he was alive, we shouldn't be in a damn hurry to have a party now that he was dead.
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I have been commenting on this for years. I have seen people take off work and travel a thousand miles to attend a funeral of someone they knew, yet it would have never occured to them to pick up the phone and chat with the deceased while he was alive, or take a little road trip to go see him. Even with people who live in the same town as the deceased, how many times did they call the guy up and say "hey, let's go to coffee" . If you are going to have a celebration of life, why not do it while the subject can still enjoy it? Buy flowers for your loved ones and friends while they can still smell them.
