Thanks. I did tell her, via txt, that I was sorry I couldn't be there for her, but I didn't tell her why - not wanting to bad-mouth her mother, but I'm almost certain she knows the reason, however.
Taking the high road like you are is the right thing.
You and her will have plenty of opportunity later on down the road to talk about history. As she grows and matures, she will respect you for doing so.
Best wishes - it's never easy, is it.
