.. My G-d, the women in that family wail like crazed Iranian women and I didn't want my daughter exposed to all that ridiculous behavior - it's simply not right and I don't want my daughter getting the idea that such behavior is acceptable...
People grieve in all sorts of ways and exposure
to such cultural spectales ain't necessarily wrong.
Maybe ask her what she thinks of it
rather than just forcing your opinion.
Who knows she might think it's silly,
not care either way, or not understand
it all.
