They will find those revolvers are pretty snappy in 38 sp. My wife's S&W Lady Smith sure is.
I taught Basic Pistol Courses for several years. Just about everyone who bought one those small light weight handguns, ended up not shooting much because of the recoil. Once they shot a few of those faster loads, they shot even less.
Personally, seeing as they don't shoot much, I would load up some hollow base wad cutters, backwards, with about 3 gr of Bullseye.
Not much of defense firearm, but I would rather see a person carrying a 22rf that they shoot a lot than a 9mm or 38 that recoils so much,they won't shoo it enough to be effective in a self defense situation.
Carrying a less penetrating round that they can shoot well is better than loading those faster ones and the gun sits on the night stand and isn't carried.
I appreciate your situation. I am not as bad, but not far from it.
Last edited by saddlesore; 11/16/22.