The recoil is too much with the S&W E-Z .380? I'm thinking it's not really recoil that's bothering her. The recoil on that pistol is VERY tame. That said, it has a pretty sharp bark to it. I gave my wife one of those earlier this month. She's not a "shooter" and was a little intimidated. After she shot it the first thing that out of her mouth was "That's loud." I would double up the hearing protection (foam plugs&muffs) and see if that helps. If it doesn't help maybe working up to it is the answer. Start her out with a .22LR and let her get comfortable with it, then move up to the .380 . If it really is recoil you could add a little weight with a weapon light.
Just suggestions.
