My only suggestion would be to not allow anyone else to tell you how much recoil is tolerable, and when it starts to become a problem. Only you can know
that for yourself, and the only way you'll know is through time spent on the trigger with different rifles. Recoil is certainly never your friend, and if you don't have a genuine need for a caliber that generates heavy recoil, I see no reason to deal with it. Given your needs, I agree with some others, and suggest something like a 7mm-08, 270 Win, or 308 Win. Modern bullets have made them even better and more capable, and they do so with what most people consider very tolerable and acceptable recoil levels.
