Giver them what feels right to you. May want to tell them it ain't the size of the wedding. Mine cost 6k 25 years ago. I paid for everything but 1k my mom and dad kicked in. My cheap liberal dem inlaws talked a big talk but gave nothing like usual. We had nothing for a honeymoon and was so hot we went to upper Michigan. Payed for that too.

But the fruits of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,faithfulness, Gentleness and self control. Against such things there is no law. Galations 5: 22&23