A little off topic, but maybe helpful: I spent a lot of time doing wedding photos in my earlier years. I saw too many families up tight and snappish about carrying off the perfect social event. The day is about celebrating an important life event and enjoying time with family and friends. Anything that gets in the way of celebrating and enjoying is counterproductive.
We mostly figured it was about the lifelong bond the 2 of us joined in that day, and even though we had some family and friends to celebrate, it was about us, and nothing else. Of course the 4 gun blackpowder salute made us grin.
