FWIW wife and I got married by our pastor out under some huge old live oaks at a Lutheran Camp locally.
We had decided that the cost of weddings was about stupid, and so we did that, we are much more comfortable in jeans day in and day out so why get dressed up? What was the purpose, what is the purpose?
We caught a bunch of fish and friends helped put on a fish fry as a feed.
We ended up spending what we had on vacation IE honeymoon to Alaska.
We invited close friends and family and thats about it. Folks we invite to parties normally.
As to who paid what, my parents and her parents chipped in some, mine more because they wanted to, but we paid for a lot of it on our own.
Weddings and Funerals are way to expensive and in the end really net not a dang thing.
