I'm not a handgun expert but have settled on a S&W J-frame, 3" 357 in a IWB holster carried in the small of my back. It's not a lightweight at 24 oz. I don't find it difficult to shoot well even with 357 loads though I usually carry trail side with 38 Specials. In SA it has a very good trigger.
Carrying concealed entails a bucket full of compromises. You just have to decide what you will and what you won't.
