So he fakes good behavior at the Doc’s office and switches back to a-hole around Mom.
So that sounds more ‘him’ than the affliction of Alz.
If an in-home nurse could start coming by, Mom could get a little break while he is occupied with 3rd party care giver. Plus he doesn’t want to get into hot water with the possiblity of being observed being verbal to your mother. It would be him knowing there’s some accountability eyeballs and dialog.
He can’t continue to suck the life out of your mother. Might just have to give a stern talk and law down the law.
Get some big, fat grumpy German or black female CNA to come on over there. They won’t take any lip. Get Olga to give him a couple of weekly enemas. That will bring him down a few notches.
As aside, I can see what someone like VarmintWife must deal with. The level of petulance the seniors put their loved ones through.
