Originally Posted by Raeford
Originally Posted by Valsdad
I've seen that many, many times.

Just as addiction is a real thing, so is enabling.

Sure sucks when one is trying to help a friend get clean or sober to have the family (or friends) screw things up. Had a friend on his third DUI get told by his boss he didn't need to quit drinking, just need to learn when to call a cab.

Wifes cousin was working for us when she got her 4th DUI.
We were out of town when we got word, so long weekend cut short.
When they released her she called all apologetic and said to me " I won't do it again and put y'all in a spot like this, promise"
I asked what, she said "drink & drive again & I'll get my jail time worked out for mostly weekends so i won't miss too much work"

I guess that'll have to be the way it is but you still done here.
She was 45 at the time.

Sorry to hear about the wife's cousin. Hopefully she got a handle on things, other than "won't drink and drive again" .

And yeah, it sounds like some of the enabling stopped with you.

The desert is a true treasure for him who seeks refuge from men and the evil of men.
In it is contentment
In it is death and all you seek
(Quoted from "The Bleeding of the Stone" Ibrahim Al-Koni)

member of the cabal of dysfunctional squirrels?