Two more cents for the Sig P365XL. I have the regular 365 and a 365XL and the slightly larger grip and slide of the XL makes a definite difference in recoil management. I know you can get an extended magazine for the 365 and that does help but the one piece grip and longer slide of the XL is still the winner IMO.

From a post I made in March of 2020 comparing several pistols:

"One subjective impression is recoil. It was 28 deg. this morning with an 8 mph wind and my fingers got a bit cold. The P365 had a 12 round mag in it so I could get my hand fully on the grip but recoil was still snappy. My chilly trigger finger really felt it after the first five rounds.

Going to the 365 XL with a longer and heavier slide showed a noticeable decrease in felt recoil, it was a slower recoil impulse. I've no way to quantify this, it wasn't a huge difference, but it was definitely noticeable. "

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