I volunteered Marine Infantry in the 70s during the height of the Cold War.
I do not hold a grudge against some 18 - 20-something who was scared shatless and took an out, whether during a hot war or a cold war. Who would really want them in their squad, anyway? Not me.
The ones I hold a grudge against are the ones who stir up shat to make money for their donors, and let kids die for them.