Not pointed at you 4ager. I have little doubt you'd make a good decision and be done with it one way or another.
I appreciate the vote of confidence. All situations are unique. With what the OP is saying, father being completely absent, etc., and the age of the kid, he could (and I think should) be aggressive and push this issue. The father, as is typical of his "stripe" likes being a bully and throwing his weight around (brass/collar heavy). Fire back, put him in his place, and end this.
Probably not in Colorado. In this state is presumed that joint custody is best for the child, so what you propose is less likely to work in this state unless the ex is a convicted drug dealer or pedophile.
You didn't use logic or reason to get into this opinion, I cannot use logic or reason to get you out of it.
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