So I guess the question is..."Why did you marry her in the first place??"
Well, I married her because she wasn't crazy at the time.
They are never crazy "at the time."
Pretty much seems to be the case.
They can control it to some extent.
They let the beast loose after the wedding...
"Gotcha!"
Too true! I hate to admit it in public, but the plain fact is that both my #1 and #2 did a complete metamorphosis within 24 hours of the wedding, and for the first time allowed me to see who they truly were, and it were ugly!
I knew I'd made a hideous mistake both times. With #1, as a born-again fundo I believe I had no recourse, and I had to live with the mistake for the rest of my days. Eventually figgered out that I didn't have to do that. Whew. With #2, I realized my error within 24 hours but tried to fix it for 11 months. Not fixable.
I'm fortunate to have learned that there is no possibility of positive communication with an ex-wife. I have no dealings with either of them.
