Passing does not make one a saint by doing so.
My dad was a worthless POS that was stolen from us by alcohol in the 70's although he lived until 2011. I didn't particularly care to be around him when he was alive, or when he was dying of congestive heart failure. He was true to form and was a worthless POS right up until he died.
But, he was my dad, and I had to deal with him on many levels through the years. Most were unpleasant. His death was unpleasant and the memories he left are unpleasant.
Another worthless POS died recently that I knew. Most everyone wished this person would die, so that they could have peace in their lives, free from theft, credit card fraud, and destruction. But when the POS died from years of drug abuse, it was sickening to she how she suddenly reverted to "angel" status.
As far as the difference is how I personally treat another person when dealing with them when they are alive... that all depends on the respect mutually shown. If none is shown, none is given.
