I don't believe the blame lies with either side, but more with a few short sighted people on both sides, and those were the ones with largest financial gains to be made, in the end, the cost to most was monumental, in the loss of both human and property, and so many have never recovered, and continue to perpetuate the hatred that helps no one.
Gettysburg is a wonderful place to visit , and that about the only good thing that came from a senseless war !

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