Everyone does what they do based on their own particular set of circumstances and perceived needs.
Down grading each other for having or not having does no one any good, and in most cases, the one doing the down grading doesn't have a clue about the circumstances the other person lives with.
Bottom line is that its unfortunate that we are going through, once again, what has become a fairly common situation in a shooter's life. But no one is necessarily right or wrong in terms of having or not having.
