I think the differences here are based on perspective. Those of us that have jobs with serious consequences if we make even a small error may hold ourselves to higher standards and just expect everyone in our profession to do the same. Those that have jobs with little to no consequence for mistakes view life saving actions as above and beyond. Doesn't mean one is right and the other is wrong, just a different perspective.

I for one don't want to fly with a pilot who doesn't think he could've made that same water landing.

Don't just be a survivor, be a competitor.