I'm sure your daughter is a fine soldier. Maybe even a great one. Probably better than her male peers in many, many areas. But, she can't fight like a man and all the wishful thinking in the world won't change that. Ever heard of Kara Hultgreen? Look 'er up.
In their haste to wish away gender differences, the military (and leftism) killed Kara Hultgreen (and nearly killed Jessica Lynch). But like the philosopher said, nature, expelled with a pitchfork, always returns.
http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/women-in-combat-lets-get-real/article7879189/