I remember when my Grandmother died. My mom and uncle wanted to place a small stone at the cemetery. All of my aunts and uncles agreed to share the cost. My uncle placed the order, followed up on placement, and advised everyone of their share. The cost didn't change. Long story short, my mom and my uncle bore the entire cost. Should have been split 6 ways. Instead it was split 2 ways. One even blamed my mom for working and having a steady income. Haven't seen any of them since.
If you haven't seen any since, I'd say you all got yourselves a great bargain out of the deal.
Two things. First, if you can't properly tip -- or plan to tip-- the waitstaff (assuming they do a good job), you shouldn't be eating out. Second, for those who do the crappy or no tip thing after receiving good service from waitstaff, I hope hard you return over and over to the same place and that the waitress you're shafting is the wife/GF of the cook/chef. Special sauce for this no good, cheap SOB coming right up...
