There are tons of ways to help. Contribute to Roth IRAS, set up 529s for grand kids, etc. No one said help/inheritance had to be a brief case of cash for kids to fight over. And no one said you can't live it up AND have enough left over to leave something nice for your kids or grand kids.
Splitting the help vs. inheritance hair is nauseating when the original argument was that kids shouldn't get anything because they're going to dump your ass in the nursing home anyway. That line of reasoning sure evolved as the tide shifted...
What's nauseating is watching you try to comprehend what you read.
