Well, since you seem to love Dr. Hererro, you might wan to actually read him (he was one of those I was referencing earilier):
That's about as kindly as I can put it...
Jayzus, Sunshine... get over yer hurt feelers and move on...
I studied under Herrero. Trust me, of any of the emotions one can have for a perfesser, "love" ain't one I EVER felt for him. But I do respect him, and I've read just about everything he's written on bear ethology, so don't try to take me to school.
As for putting it kindly, put it in a pipe and smoke it.