Carry the largest caliber and barrel configuration you can conceal under the clothes you're wearing and you can handle the recoil well enough to draw and fire five rounds into a torso-sized target at 10' in 5 seconds.
Not much of a standard. The OP could do that with the S&W Model 500, but I doubt he's lookin to EDC three and a half pounds of steel plus 2 reloads.
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