bwinters, hit a key point if it wasn't mentioned before.
All too often folks buy kids a kids gun. Usually that's a light kicking round in a light gun.
I have 3 light rifles. 243, Swede, 308. All lighter recoiling rounds. All 3 kick harder than you expect from their rounds. It's physic(s).
Fair point. My brother and I each have a heavy-ish .308win bolt gun (a Ruger Hawkeye Predator and a 700 sps-aac) that are both just pleasant to shoot from the bench. The weight and stock design are responsible.