This may sound daft or old-fashioned (not applicable?) but maybe the most effective path for the younger set of folks today would be to keep the mating process basic and very rigorous. Emphasize some simple but huge over arching values and be tough - very tough - in making decisions about those with whom you will be close. Most successful persons know how to differentiate between work and play - between improvement and self-gratification.
That's basically what I ended up doing. I decided what my most important values were and took girls out on dates that involved those things. Don't like it? Been nice knowing you! And I'd never talk to them again.
