One thing that I figured out a long time ago is that you can never really know what is going on in someone else's marriage just by looking at outward appearances. So, I don’t waste my time trying. As for the “’til death do us part, my word is my bond” crowd, don’t be so smug. Everyone focuses on the “death do us part” part and not the “love, honor and cherish” part. You can honor a commitment to stick around until someone dies, but no oath can force you to love, honor and cherish someone you don’t in spite of any good faith and best beliefs and intentions on the front end. So, the sticking around part when the love is gone just assures mutual misery and/or a lifelong roommate instead of a life partner. Kids pick up on that, too, and it is an unhealthy life lesson for them. I’ve got some experience with that one.
Carry on.
