I think "which one" is a completely separate question/thought exercise than "is it time to divorce".
The divorce question needs to stand on its own 2 feet regardless of next steps.
I am divorced - didn't divorce because of other options, was bad marriage to begin with. AFTER - when some of those old "we've known each other forever, always tension there, we should see" came up. Crash and burn every time. We're still good friends but as a relationship - no way. Same for others I know.
Divorce may be what's needed and it might start you on the path to being happy. Just don't be surprised if the 2 choices presented here aren't what ultimately makes you happy.
