You would always feel like you're walking on eggs from now on. It's best to let it go and get a Good Female divorce attorney, trust me.
Set aside some cash at your workplace or with a friend. You'll need it eventually.
Usually she has someone else scoped out, and that third party will cause you trouble. Get things rolling as fast as you possibly can, because she is feeling bad and a bit guilty right now. Not so as time goes on.
I'm awfully sorry to hear this and am sure you are a good husband and provider. I've been where you are, and grew up with a dad in Reno NV who was an attorney. Been around it enough to give valid advice.
Best Wishes
L2S
