Let's have some female advice, Miss Lynn. Assume the OP is a good guy, what do you think is going on?
IF she married young, and never spent any real time being single, she may be wanting to go back now, and do ALL the things she wanted to do back then, but knew being a wife and being a mother prohibited it. It happens to men and women.
She was home for 14 years, she probably would have been better off being out working, getting away from the walls that housed her day after day.
IF she doesn't like herself, then how the hell is she going to LOVE him.
Did they HAVE to get married ? Or was it a free will thing. That makes a difference for many over the years.
Did THEY spend any time together, not kids, not church, not anything, BUT they alone. Even a half hour a day makes a difference to love and life.
Neither is 100% innocent. He is not perfect, only Jesus was perfect, and he is not Jesus.
Like I said, there is his side, her side, and the truth.
The only ones that matter at this point are the innocents, the children, and the better of the two parents will be the one that puts the kids first, and keeps it as clean as possible, they will come out the Victor.
Is it possible she is cheating ? Maybe, but why ? Money ? If she has found someone with money as everyone says, then she doesn't need his, and all she needs is to leave and be with the man who has the money. She does not need to ask permission to leave, married or not, she is not a prisoner. Money will buy her a lawyer that will fix it all for her, one way or the other anyways.
If he wants to know, he should ask her, he claims life was perfect between them, so if it truly was, he truly knows her, and he will know whether she is cheating or not. Men and women do not truly want to ask this question, because the answer, for a short time or a long time, makes them feel as inadequate as hell, and it hurts, the pride first, and then the heart.
Maybe in the end, she just wants to go, and she doesn't want to take him with her, period.
IF so, he should just move forward, concentrate on the kids and himself. There is a future without her, and chances are it is going to be so much better than the one he has now. He can never say NEVER.
