Anymore..... After 15 years and 4 children, youngest is 6. She does not think she wants to continue our marriage.She said she still cares for me, but not love. I have a marriage counsel set up for next monday, but it don't look good. She said diff.individual events over the past 10 years have caused her to loose the love. I have not done anything that would warrant a divorce, stuff that most should forgive and forget. I asked about the thousands of great things that I think that I have done for her/us---the family, and I guess its never enough. She has not had to work for the past 14 years, we have a beautiful house, vacation at the beach 3 weeks a year, a pool in the back yard----- a life that I think most woman would love to have------------I am fit, in shape, and have never had a problem in the looks dept. I love her like I have never loved another. Has anyone of you guys turned this situation around?????
I was EXACTLY where you are in your life 12 years ago.
I wasn't able to turn it around.
You can't build a wall high enough or a fence strong enough, or love her more if she wants out. Don't beat yourself up about that. It ain't you dude. As hard as it is, you got to let her go. She obviously has something broken, I would venture a guess that you have been keeping the lid on the boiling pot for a long time, and it finally boiled over. It ain't you. It is her. So while you ain't perfect, don't beat yourself up about her decision. If she is anything like mine, she will try projecting the blame on you.
12 years later, my kids realize now that while I am not perfect, it was their Mom who is the damaged goods. While not bad, she is messed up as a soup sandwich, and they see that now. And the foolish choices and statements she makes. Point being, in time, the kids will see what is messed up. So will her family and all your friends.
Don't speak I'll of their Mom - ever, and they will see you were the one with class and character and she was the one who doesn't have those things.
I wish you the best. It is awful. I wouldn't wish what you are going through on my worst enemy.
