I'm with Travis on most of this (see strikethrough). But play it straight, don't try to be too smart for your own good.
As godogs said, get the meanest female divorce lawyer you can find. Women know how to fight dirtier than men do, best to get one on your side.
There are a fair number of men getting neti-potted in their dark roast right now that sincerely wish they hadn't been honest when they spoke to the poh-lease.
Remember that.
Travis
